Old hippie seeks friend, companion, maybe more - w4m
Let me share with you my relationship fantasy; this is kind of what I looked forward to for this stage of life. My partner and I share an easy, comfortable friendship, as well as a deeply passionate intimacy that encompasses the emotional, intellectual, and spiritual as well as the physical. We enjoy time spent together, but we are not joined at the hip; sometimes we are separate, doing our own thing, pursuing our own interests, and other times we are gloriously together, engaged in stimulating conversation or working in the garden or cooking or some other activity we both enjoy. We aren't really "party people," preferring the quiet comforts of home to nights on the town, but every now and then we run away from home, and take a road trip, go camping, or go off to see something we've never seen before and maybe have an adventure. We can discuss politics, art, literature, or philosophy, chat about salsa recipes, or just catch up on the minutiae of the day. We can also enjoy a companionable silence. We both like good food, but we're also health-conscious -- we aren't spring chickens any more, after all. Sometimes we have close friends or family for dinner, and we share the kitchen work with a glass of wine, and we genuinely enjoy our guests, but we heave a sigh of relief when their taillights fade into the evening, because we enjoy our private time as much as our social time, perhaps more.My partner has many varied interests, few if any of which involve sports or television. He is well-read, laid-back, mature and self-confident, and enjoys smart women. He doesn't mind that I'm not a young, thin blonde, but rather short, rubenesque, and gray on top, and he isn't threatened by my feminist politics. His own politics are liberal, like mine, and he's either an agnostic or an atheist; he finds true believers a little scary. He cares about the environment, and about those less fortunate. He's also handy around the house, likes animals, and puts the seat down when he's finished. He tries to take care of himself, but he's not a nut-job fanatic about it. He reads and thinks and doesn't believe he has all the answers. He likes books and music and art. He has the normal amount of baggage we all have at our age, but it doesn't rule his life. His tolerance for drama is low, and his tolerance for other people's idiosyncrasies is high. Best of all, he thinks I'm the cat's meow.Yes, that's what I expected. Life is funny, isn't it? One day you're unattached, footloose and fancy free, building a career, going to graduate school, raising kids, thinking there's plenty of time for relationships when you're not so busy, and then the next thing you know, you're almost 20, still alone, and wondering what the hell happened.It may be that it's too late for this fantasy to come true, but hey! Hope springs eternal. If any part of my fantasy matches any part of yours, email me and we'll see what happens. I'm looking forward to hearing from you. We can swap pics if you like. Please put "hopeful romantic" in the subject line, so I'll know you're a real person.